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Post by Mea on Jan 7, 2016 5:20:13 GMT
- caters to the “struggles” of people with BPD loved ones rather than people with BPD
- the author Randi Kreger has stated that people with certain PDs are incapable of having compassion for others
- she also runs a forum on psychologytoday where she frequently posts articles comparing people with BPD to children, stating that she feels sorry for children with borderline parents, and all kinds of other gross shit
- she also changes the symptoms of BPD so they’ll fit her agenda
- multiple times in the book states that research about bpd is wrong because of her personal experience with it
- uses outdated information
- the books sets up a sort of How To Save Yourself system for people with loved ones of BPD and treats people with the disorder has burdens because apparently our loves ones need “saving” from us
- continuously infantilizes borderline patients and compares them to children on more than one occasion
- assumes all people with BPD are abusive and manipulative
- states that BPD patients don’t have empathy, which isn't always true, but it also demonizes low empathy levels or lack of empathy and therefore demonizes disorders which actually DO normally cause low empathy
- sets it up to say that anyone with BPD is constantly looking to manipulate, making it even more difficult for someone with BPD to speak up about abuse they face
- in fact actually outright says that people with BPD love to “play victim”
- encourages emotional abuse against people with BPD as a form of treatment, stating borderline patients need “tough love” in order to heal
- hell the title of the fucking book is Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Back Your Life When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder as if we take away people’s lives simply by existing and as if every encounter with us is navigating a landmine why the fuck would you read a book with a title like that
- when listing signs to the reader of whether or not a loved one has BPD, literally lists SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE like “do they make you doubt your own sense of reality?” and other signs of emotional abuse with “if you answered yes to most of these your loved one might have BPD” so it’s literally “Are you being emotionally abused? They might have BPD.”
- states that friends and family upon knowing someone with BPD automatically become trapped in a toxic cycle, and that the closer the relationship the more the person is going to get hurt
- is very condescending in general
- many people with BPD have come forward and said the “hints and tips” listed in the book for “dealing with” BPD sufferers have actually harmed them
- even if you look at it as a book for dealing with abusive people, it actually seems to excuse abuse and seems to be a book about “how to understand your abusive partner and live with them” so even if it wasn’t assuming all people with BPD are abusive it’s just honestly a horrible book in every way
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