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Category List [description of categories]
The Basics of Borderline Personality Disorder
General Psychology Information
Handling Your Diagnosis
Resources for You and Your Therapist
Borderline Symptoms in Depth
Other Symptoms and Behaviors Related to BPD
Co-Morbid Disorders and Symptoms
The Borderline Experience
The Borderline Social Life
The Borderline Intimate Life
Recovery Resources
Coping Strategies
Self-Care
Other Helpful Links
Questions about Shit Borderlines Do
Other BPD Blogs
Recommended Reading
List of Masterposts
Frequently Asked Questions
A collection of posts with useful information and frequently asked questions.
* on both sides indicates a masterpost with multiple links: Please look through these as well.
Note: We will not diagnose you.
Tips for navigating the FAQ can be found here.
Rebloggable version of the FAQ can be found here.
Category List [description of categories]
- General Psychology Information
- Handling Your Diagnosis
- Resources for You and Your Therapist
- Borderline Symptoms in Depth
- Other Symptoms and Behaviors Related to BPD
- Co-Morbid Disorders and Symptoms
- The Borderline Experience
- The Borderline Social Life
- The Borderline Intimate Life
- Recovery Resources
- Coping Strategies
- Self-Care
- Other Helpful Links
- Questions About Shit Borderlines Do
- Other BPD Blogs
- Recommended Reading
- List of Masterposts
- List of Mods
The Basics of Borderline Personality Disorder
- [*]What is BPD? What is the diagnostic criteria?
- [*]* Resources for Friends, Family, and Loved Ones *
- [*]* Do I have BPD? (diagnosis info, symptom info, etc.)
General Psychology Information
- [*]What is the difference between a therapist, a psychiatrist, and a psychologist?
- [*]Do I have to take medication if I see a psychiatrist?
- [*]What do they mean by Clusters A, B, and C?
- [*]How many mental illnesses am I allowed to have?
- [*]What is a “primary diagnosis”?
- [*]What if I don’t have a “primary diagnosis”?
- [*]What do they mean by the “Perfect Storm”?
- [*]Is BPD really visible on an MRI scan?
- [*]Can someone with BPD be a therapist or psychiatrist?
- [*]Could I be a therapist and work with kids even with BPD?
- [*]What changes were made to the DSM-V?
- [*]The Five Factor Model can be used to predict personality disorders?
- [*]Which FFM result is most common for BPD?
- [*]What is the K10 scale?
- [*]What does it mean to have traits vs. the a full disorder?
- [*]Are people with personality disorders more likely to be abusive?
- [*]Which disorders require trauma for a diagnosis?
- [*]What does diagnostic criteria mean by “these symptoms are not caused by another illness”?
- [*]Do gender statistics for disorders take trans people into account?
Handling Your Diagnosis
- [*]Should I tell my significant other about my diagnosis?
- [*]How should I tell someone I have BPD?
- [*]How should I tell a parent I have BPD?
- [*]Is there anything POSITIVE about the BPD criteria?
- [*]Are there any positive traits that come with BPD?
- [*]More positive traits of BPD?
- [*]More positive traits?
- [*]Is it normal for symptoms to improve after diagnosis?
- [*]People say I’m “too nice” to be borderline?
- [*]What do they mean by BPD being diagnosed to “difficult” patients?
- [*]Is there a reason a professional wouldn’t diagnose me?
- [*]Would a therapist withhold a diagnosis to protect me from stigma?
- [*]Is it normal to be happy about my diagnosis?
- [*]Does SBD support self-diagnosis?
- [*]What is the best way to self-diagnose?
- [*]Can I self-diagnose, even if I am underage?
- [*]Is it okay for me to self-diagnose, even if I’m able to see a professional?
- [*]Does self-diagnosing harm those who are professionally diagnosed?
Resources for You and Your Therapist
- [*]The Borderline Personality Disorder Checklist
- [*]How do I find the right therapist?
- [*]How do I look for a therapist?
- [*]How do I go about getting diagnosed?
- [*]How long does it take to get diagnosed?
- [*]How do I tell my therapist/psychiatrist/doctor I think I have BPD?
- [*]I’m a minor and I think I have BPD. How do I tell a professional?
- [*]My therapist won’t take me seriously?
- [*]What do I do if my therapists agrees I have borderline symptoms but doesn’t think I have BPD?
- [*]How much does DBT cost?
- [*]Should I get professionally diagnosed?
- [*]My psych/therapist won’t respect my research?
- [*]What are my chances of being diagnosed if I’m under 18?
- [*]Should I tell my therapist that I self-harm?
- [*]How do I deal with a professional who think I’m lazy, etc., not depressed?
- [*]My therapist refuses to diagnose me?
- [*]My therapist doesn’t think I have BPD because I lack a certain symptom?
- [*]My therapist invalidates my symptoms?
- [*]Advice on getting a therapist to take me seriously?
- [*]Could my therapist mistake BPD for Depression and Anxiety?
- [*]My therapist doesn’t think I’m “sick enough” to have BPD?
Borderline Symptoms in Depth
- [*]What is Dissociation?
- [*]Am I dissociating?
- [*]Can poor memory be a part of dissociation?
- [*]In what ways can dissociation affect your memory?
- [*]Is it still dissociation if I can remember what happened when prompted?
- [*]Does dissociation have to be an “out of body” experience?
- [*]What is splitting?
- [*]More information on long-term splitting?
- [*]Is it possible to split with empathy levels?
- [*]Is it possible to split on myself?
- [*]Is it possible to split on interests and hobbies?
- [*]Does splitting have to be caused by abandonment issues?
- [*]What is “black and white thinking?”
- [*]What is empathy?
- [*]Can I have object and/or animal empathy rather than people?
- [*]Could I have high empathy but low sympathy?
- [*]Cognitive Empathy vs Emotional Empathy?
- [*]I thought people with BPD had low empathy?
- [*]Explanation of “perceptions are often biased towards negative attributes”?
- [*]Explanation of “engaging in potentially self-damaging activities”?
- [*]What are cognition problems and affectivity problems?
- [*]More detailed description of cognition problems?
- [*]Examples of cognition problems?
- [*]More detailed description of interpersonal functioning?
- [*]What is “impulsivity”?
- [*]What are “transient, stress-related, paranoid ideations”?
- [*]Does self-harm count as impulsive behavior?
- [*]What counts as self-harm?
- [*]Do I have to bleed in order for it to be self-harm?
- [*]Can self-harm be emotional or mental and not just physical?
- [*]Do intrusive thoughts count as impulsive behavior?
- [*]Do impulses have to be harmful?
- [*]What counts as risky impulsive behavior?
- [*]Can disordered eating count as self-harm or impulsive behavior?
- [*]What are some examples of “frantic efforts to avoid abandonment”?
- [*]More information on fear of abandonment and how it actually works?
- [*]What would delusions of abandonment look like?
- [*]More information on identity disturbance?
- [*]Can identity disturbance simply mean I’m a different person every day?
- [*]Is it normal to get angry for no reason?
- [*]Can symptom severity be different?
- [*]How often do mood swings happen?
- [*]More information on “feeling empty”?
- [*]Does it matter if I express my symptoms internally or externally?
- [*]Is it normal if I can be laughing one minute and crying the next?
- [*]Is it a BPD thing to get the urge to fight someone?
- [*]Are there any symptoms specific to BPD?
Other Symptoms and Behaviors Related to BPD
- [*]What does it mean if I can’t concentrate on something I’m interested in?
- [*]What are “manic symptoms” like for people with BPD?
- [*]Are there different levels of paranoid thoughts?
- [*]How common is parasuicide in BPD?
- [*]Is compulsive/excessive lying a sypmtom of BPD?
- [*]Is it common for people with BPD to have issues with compulsive lying?
- [*]Can trauma make BPD symptoms worse?
- [*]Does emotional abuse count as trauma?
- [*]Is it normal to have trouble remembering specifics of events?
- [*]I can’t cope with any other emotion than the feeling of emptiness?
- [*]Sometimes I feel like a different person at night?
- [*]Can music affect my mood swings?
- [*]Can BPD cause body pains?
- [*]Is it normal for feelings of intense boredom to lead to suicidal thoughts?
- [*]Is it normal to relive memories in third person?
- [*]More information on emotional amnesia?
- [*]Is it normal to get emotionally attached to objects?
- [*]Can BPD affect your interests?
Co-Morbid Disorders and Symptoms
- [*]Can BPD have co-occurring disorders?
- [*]Is it normal to have so many disorders at once?
- [*]* Diagnostic Checklists for Other Disorders*
- [*]* Information on Other Personality Disorders*
- [*]* How does BPD compare to other disorders?*
- [*]Is it possible to have both BPD and autism?
- [*]Can women with Asperger’s be misdiagnosed with BPD?
- [*]Where does BPD fall in relation to other mental disorders?
- [*]What do I have if I don’t have BPD?
- [*]Is there a collection of links for help with certain disorders?*
- [*]* BPD and psychosis?*
- [*]Can BPD traits develop into bipolar?
- [*]Manic and hypomanic symptoms in BPD?
- [*]What is Alexithymia?
- [*]Are alexithymia and BPD mutually exclusive?
- [*]More information on age regression?
- [*]Is it normal to have repressed memories?
- [*]PTSD as a result of abuse in early development
- [*]What are intrusive thoughts?
- [*]Are intrusive thoughts common for people with BPD?
- [*]Can intrusive thoughts be racist, transphobic, etc.?
- [*]Intrusive thoughts vs. impulses and urges?
- [*]Is it normal to have varying responses to trauma and triggers?
- [*]What are some examples of “odd metaphorical thinking”?
- [*]Can BPD cause disordered sleeping habits?
- [*]How do I cope with symptoms of depression and anxiety?
- [*]When I get depressed, I eat less. Could this lead to an eating disorder?
- [*]Could my disordered eating be BPD or an eating disorder?
- [*]Could cabin fever be a symptom of BPD?
The Borderline Experience
- [*]Are people with BPD more perceptive/sensitive?
- [*]Why do you think there is so much stigma against BPD?
- [*]What are some common borderline reactions/coping styles?
- [*]Is it normal to copy the way someone expresses their emotions?
- [*]Is liking the idea of pretending to be someone else a BPD symptom?
- [*]Is it normal to have difficulty being partially wrong about something?
- [*]Is it common for people with BPD to over-apologize?
- [*]When is my BPD truly disabling me, and when am I making up excuses?
- [*]How do I decide whether to push through something stressful or step back?
- [*]Is it normal to latch onto celebrities or fictional characters?
- [*]How does drinking affect BPD?
- [*]Is it normal to express borderline symptoms inwardly instead of outwardly?
- [*]Is it normal for my BPD to automatically feel evil and question myself?
- [*]Is it common to be upset when you don’t live up to a certain trait?
- [*]Can PMS make borderline symptoms worse?
- [*]Can BPD cause sensory overload?
- [*]Is it common for BPD to cause shift in opinions I feel strongly about?
- [*]Some things we’ve learned about BPD
- [*]An Ultimate List of Borderline Traits
- [*]Can identity disturbance affect gender and sexuality?
- [*]Is there a connection between being trans and borderline?
- [*]Can BPD cause a gender disturbance?
- [*]What is bordergender/borderfluid?
- [*]What do you think of a borderline gender identity?
- [*]What is a Favorite Person? Do I need to have one to have BPD?
- [*]What is the difference between a Favorite Person and a Depended?
- [*]Does a Favorite Person have to be a romantic or sexual relationship?
- [*]What if my Favorite Person is abusive?
- [*]Is it possible to have more than one Favorite Person?
- [*]How do I tell my Favorite Person they’re my Favorite Person?
- [*]Can a Favorite Person be a celebrity or fictional character?
- [*]Could my BPD symptoms be the reason I experienced trauma?
- [*]Is it possible to imprint on a fictional character?
The Borderline Social Life
- [*]Can BPD symptoms about relationships extend to platonic relationships?
- [*]I’m having difficulty expressing myself?
- [*]People keep telling me I’m irrational?
- [*]Can my symptom severity be dependent on my environment and/or who I’m around?
- [*]Is it normal to constantly want to impress your friends?
- [*]“Neediness” vs “Emotional manipulation”?
- [*]What are “frantic efforts to avoid abandonment”?
- [*]More information on “frantic efforts to avoid abandonment”?
- [*]Are all people with BPD manipulative?
- [*]Are all people with BPD abusive?
- [*]What is Emotional Permanence?
- [*]Is it a borderline thing to sometimes say inappropriate things?
- [*]I’m having difficulty with violence?
- [*]BPD and Parenting
- [*]I want kids, but what if I give them my BPD?
- [*]Am I being abusive?
- [*]Is it normal to be upset when people change?
- [*]Is it normal to start fights/react quickly to anger?
- [*]My friend was diagnosed with BPD, but I feel like this is MY disorder?
- [*]My friends don’t want me to talk to them about my symptoms anymore?
- [*]How do I explain to my friends how I’m feeling?
- [*]How can I ask for reassurance without overwhelming my friends?
- [*]How do I communicate my feelings with others?
- [*]Do some people with BPD struggle with empathy?
- [*]Apathy and BPD
- [*]Is it normal to constantly need validation from loved ones?
- [*]Do all people with BPD have to be social?
- [*]How can I get a loved one to acknowledge me without being manipulative?
The Borderline Intimate Life
- [*]How am I supposed to have a successful relationship?
- [*]How can I care for my mentally ill loved one when I have BPD?
- [*]Can I have a successful relationship if I and/or my partner is polyamorous?
- [*]How can I let go of a past relationship?
- [*]How do I handle a long-distance relationship?
- [*]I’m aro/ace. Do relationship-oriented symptoms still apply to me?
- [*]Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with BPD?
- [*]Advice for relationships with people with BPD?
- [*]They say people with BPD are very sexual, but I’m asexual?
- [*]Is there a link between BPD and asexuality?
- [*]People don’t believe I’m asexual, but think my not wanting sex is caused by my mental disorders?
- [*]Can sex be a form of self-harm?
- [*]Is it normal to have splitting views on sex?
- [*]More information on splitting with sex (asexuality/hypersexuality)?
- [*]Can BPD cause enjoyment of BDSM and other “taboo” sex?
- [*]Can a relationship be fixed after BPD has made it unhealthy?
- [*]How do I cope with having a partner who is more detached?
- [*]How can I begin to look for a partner?
- [*]How can I explain to my partner how my identity disturbance works?
- [*]How can I deal with the fact my partner is friends with their exes?
- [*]Friends keep developing crushes on me?
- [*]Is it normal to have sexual dreams about people other than my partner?
- [*]What do I do if my partner’s therapist is biased against people with BPD?
- [*]Is it normal to be disgusted by sex or affection?
- [*]Short-lived romantic attraction?
- [*]I have difficulty distinguishing romantic and platonic attraction?
Recovery Resources
- [*]Can personality disorders be cured?
- [*]What types of therapy and medications work best for BPD?
- [*]What meds can I take for BPD?
- [*]What meds are prescribed for BPD?
- [*]I don’t have health insurance. How can I pay for my meds?
- [*]Does x medication treat BPD symptoms?
- [*]Can anti-depressants help with borderline symptoms?
- [*]Is it normal for symptoms to improve after beginning medication?
- [*]I’ve been taking meds, and I feel better. Should I stop taking them?
- [*]Can my medication for another disorder help treat my BPD?
- [*]Can I drink alcohol with medication for my BPD?
- [*]What is DBT/MBT?
- [*]More information on DBT?
- [*]What is covered under DBT, CBT, and ACT?
- [*]Are there DBT worksheets available online?
- [*]More DBT and CBT worksheets
- [*]What is the suicide hotline for my country?
- [*]How do I build a safety plan for myself?
- [*]Is it possible to prevent developing BPD if I treat my symptoms early?
- [*]Are there reasons someone may not want to recover?
- [*]Is it okay if I “recover” but don’t want to identify as “recovered”?
Coping Strategies
- [*]* DBT Skills and Related Info Masterpost
- [*]Short Description of DBT Skills
- [*]What are some tips for dealing with my disorder?
- [*]What are some healthier ways to release anger?
- [*]What are some grounding skills to help me during an episode?
- [*]How do I cope with anger/splitting?
- [*]How do I cope with all these overwhelming emotions?
- [*]How do I cope with invalidating thoughts?
- [*]How do I cope with anger and impulsivity?
- [*]How do I cope with my unstable sense of identity?
- [*]How do I cope with friends who make hurtful jokes?
- [*]How do I cope with being ignored/talked over?
- [*]How do I cope with addiction?
- [*]How do I cope with feeling drained after socializing?
- [*]How do I cope with panicky thoughts?
- [*]How do I cope with misophonia/sensitivity to sound?
- [*]How do I cope with, while arguing, taking everything as a personal attack?
- [*]How do I cope with depression and anxiety?
- [*]How do I cope with getting upset over minor upsets?
- [*]How do I cope with losing my Favorite Person?
- [*]How do I cope with disagreements with a partner?
- [*]I think I’m dissociating, what are some more grounding skills to help me?
Self-Care
- [*]What are some online games I can play to help ease my anxiety?
- [*]What are some good mental illness apps?
- [*]What’s some good music to calm me down?
- [*]I feel like self-harming. What can I do instead?
- [*]How do I fade and cover self-harm scars?
- [*]I need some distractions from overwhelming emotions?
- [*]What is “Spoon Theory”?
- [*]How can I love myself after hating myself for so long?
- [*]Do you have any colouring pages for when I need to distract myself?
Other Helpful Links
- [*]31 Days of BPD Questionnaire
- [*]Can I get fired for having BPD?
- [*]What is a breakdown?
- [*]Symptoms vs Behaviors
- [*]Signs of Emotional Abuse
- [*]Warning signs of abuse and when it isn’t abuse
- [*]Why is it ableist to say, “You’re so bipolar?”
- [*]Why is it ableist to call someone a “psycho”?
- [*]What’s wrong with Sigmund Freud?
- [*]What’s wrong with the book Stop Walking on Eggshells?
- [*]What’s wrong with BPD Family?
- [*]The problem with “quiet” and “loud” terminology.
- [*]What’s wrong with the term “quiet borderline”?
- [*]What if we replaced “quiet” with something else?
- [*]What does it mean to be “neurotypical”? “Neurodivergent”? “Allistic”?
- [*]Who is included under the “neurodivergent” label?
- [*]What’s the difference between AVPD and social anxiety?
- [*]What’s the difference between OCD and OCPD?
- [*]How do the mods feel about the movie “Girl, Interrupted”?
- [*]…The movie “Welcome to Me”?
- [*]Empathy vs Sympathy vs Compassion
- [*]Who is Martha Linehan?
- [*]Can someone be abusive because of a mental disorder?
- [*]BPD and MBTI Correlation
Questions about Shit Borderlines Do
- [*]Where can I find the blank template for Shit Borderlines Do?
- [*]Why is the blog called “Shit Borderlines Do”?
- [*]How can I become a mod here?
- [*]Do you ever ignore asks?
- [*]Can I reblog your posts even if I don’t have BPD?
- [*]Can I reblog posts about a PD even if I only have traits of that PD?
- [*]Can I send you vents or ask for personal advice?
- [*]Will you be developing more quizzes?
- [*]Does SBD support self-diagnosis?
- [*]Can I send you a long ask about myself and get your opinion on what I am?
Other BPD Blogs
- [*]~ Under Construction ~
Recommended Reading
- [*]Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder
- [*]The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide
- [*]Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder
- [*]The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook
- [*]Overcoming Trauma and PTSD
- [*]Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified
- [*]The DBT Skills Training Manual
- [*]The DBT Skills Workbook for Anger
- [*]Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for the Newly Diagnosed
List of Masterposts
- [*]What causes BPD?
- [*]31 Days of BPD Awareness
- [*]Do I have BPD? (diagnosis info, symptom info, etc.)
- [*]Diagnostic Checklists for Other Disorders
- [*]Information on Other Personality Disorders
- [*]DBT Skills Masterpost
- [*]How does BPD compare to other disorders?
- [*]Is there a collection of links for help with certain disorders?
- [*]BPD and psychosis?
- [*]Resources for Friends, Family, and Loved Ones