Post by Mea on Dec 16, 2015 9:28:48 GMT
Anonymous asked: hey I've been having a lot of people say that people with PDs are more likely to be abusive recently and i know that is 100000000% wrong, but do you know of any resources that show that they are wrong, maybe with statistics or something?
Answer: In the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, it talks about how people who are mentally ill are more likely to be abused than they are to be abusers themselves. He is a workshop leader and has worked with many abusers to correct their behavior, and he says in this book that while >30% of the population has some mental illness of some kind, only about 10% or less of the people he’s treated for abusive behavior have been mentally ill. (An even smaller percentage had personality disorders.)
The important thing to remember is that abuse is calculated. Abusers know what they are doing, and it’s a common misconception that they “lose control” or “can’t help themselves.” Abuse is planned. Abusers are master manipulators, and they know exactly what they’re doing. Lundy Bancroft and others believe that healthier minds (neurotypical minds) are more capable of this kind of planning and calculated abuse. Disorders which are defined by impulsivity and lack any kind of stability are probably less likely to be abusers.
Obviously, anyone is capable of being an abuser. Abusers are everywhere, and they are all genders and all ages as well. Anyone is capable of becoming an abuser. There aren’t really enough studies to prove neurotypical people are more capable of being abusers than neurodivergent people, but there is personal experience spoken from professionals who have worked with both, so that’s something. I can also say in my personal experience, I have been abused by both mentally ill people and neurotypical people, and the abuse I suffered from neurotypical people is what has been the most traumatic for me because it was far more planned and calculated and therefore far more damaging.
-Mea
Answer: In the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, it talks about how people who are mentally ill are more likely to be abused than they are to be abusers themselves. He is a workshop leader and has worked with many abusers to correct their behavior, and he says in this book that while >30% of the population has some mental illness of some kind, only about 10% or less of the people he’s treated for abusive behavior have been mentally ill. (An even smaller percentage had personality disorders.)
The important thing to remember is that abuse is calculated. Abusers know what they are doing, and it’s a common misconception that they “lose control” or “can’t help themselves.” Abuse is planned. Abusers are master manipulators, and they know exactly what they’re doing. Lundy Bancroft and others believe that healthier minds (neurotypical minds) are more capable of this kind of planning and calculated abuse. Disorders which are defined by impulsivity and lack any kind of stability are probably less likely to be abusers.
Obviously, anyone is capable of being an abuser. Abusers are everywhere, and they are all genders and all ages as well. Anyone is capable of becoming an abuser. There aren’t really enough studies to prove neurotypical people are more capable of being abusers than neurodivergent people, but there is personal experience spoken from professionals who have worked with both, so that’s something. I can also say in my personal experience, I have been abused by both mentally ill people and neurotypical people, and the abuse I suffered from neurotypical people is what has been the most traumatic for me because it was far more planned and calculated and therefore far more damaging.
-Mea
