Anonymous asked: Hi there, I was just wondering since I don't have the ability to open the FAQ currently, (phone glitches every time I open it), if it is normal to be laughing one minute and be happy and the next feel very empty and upset the next? I experience this often but it does not seem to be common with the people I ask. Thank you.
Answer: I’m not sure if you’re saying normal for people with BPD or people generally. I would say it is relatively normal for people with BPD.
From the Diagnostic Criteria from our own FAQ:
Emotional lability (an aspect of Negative Affectivity): Unstable emotional experiences and frequent mood changes; emotions that are easily aroused, intense, and/or out of proportion to events and circumstances. Mood swings of the type you describe are definitely something I experience. I can be extremely sad at one moment and then the next hour be perfectly ok.
For the general population I wouldn’t say such rapid mood swings are normal. But not being normal isn’t always a bad thing. It just means it’s not common. If you feel it is impacting your life, relationships, and/or stability looking at some coping strategies from our DBT skills masterpost may be helpful or, if you are able to, talking to professional might be helpful also.