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Post by Vulpes Demonica on Jan 12, 2016 21:14:56 GMT
TW: #sex mention #rape mention #self-harm?
Hopefully I'm not breaking rules with this post. If I am, a mod is welcome to delete it.
I've been meaning to ask... I know there are a lot of involving hypersexuality where it was caused by rape. I'm not one of those cases, yet I still have the condition in what mostly feels a negative aspect. I still feel like it's something I need in order to feel validated, desired/attractive, and loved, and whenever someone else is disinterested I feel completely worthless and split. Sometimes it gets bad enough to where I feel the need to just seek it from anywhere, just for that attention and validation. Even if just temporary. On top of that, sex is pretty much always on my mind no matter what I do, even if I relieve myself a ridiculous amount of times in a single day until I'm literally raw and in pain. And sometimes even then, it's not enough to make the feelings go away. Sometimes I even have to purposefully hurt myself down there because it gets so frustrating and makes me hate myself more. And also makes me dysphoric of my body.
Does anyone else have hypersexuality like this not caused by rape? (This doesn't mean those of you who do aren't important. I'm just trying to find people I can relate to in this manner.)
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Post by Mea on Jan 13, 2016 4:38:15 GMT
I can't offer much to this discussion as a rape survivor, but I did want to verify that this is an okay post to make! And thank you for tagging appropriately. I just don't want straight up pornography on here, but discussion of sex is very important to allow on a mental health forum. <3
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Post by sas on Jan 13, 2016 8:50:23 GMT
TW: #sex mention #rape mention #self-harm? I still feel like it's something I need in order to feel validated, desired/attractive, and loved, and whenever someone else is disinterested I feel completely worthless and split. Sometimes it gets bad enough to where I feel the need to just seek it from anywhere, just for that attention and validation. Even if just temporary. To a certain extent, I'm self-dx-ed (though my harmful sexual behaviour is a concern for my psych team), but I'm exactly the same way. I would try to sleep with people just to see if I could. If they didn't, it would start me on a downward spiral. Even now, in a relationship, if my FP doesn't want to have sex, I feel like a massive piece of shit and I really hate myself. Whenever we fight, I try to fix it with sex, because I sometimes feel like it's the only thing I'm good at/good for. You know?
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Post by Vulpes Demonica on Jan 13, 2016 9:47:04 GMT
Even now, in a relationship, if my FP doesn't want to have sex, I feel like a massive piece of shit and I really hate myself. Whenever we fight, I try to fix it with sex, because I sometimes feel like it's the only thing I'm good at/good for. You know? THis is pretty much exactly what I do. So I can perfectly understand.
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Post by Charlie on Jan 13, 2016 9:55:05 GMT
Oh god this is the most relatable thread so far. A lot of those feelings are symptoms of BPD or at least caused by it, but we don't talk about them because it's "gross" or "uncomfortable" or whatever... But you're definitely not alone, I have a few friends that feel this way, too.
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Post by borderlineshitstorm on Mar 12, 2016 3:18:46 GMT
You're not alone in this. I get the tension whenever wherever. it plays into my mood swings and can be quite the pain. I myself haven't felt with it, but defiantly talk to a therapist or a trusted loved one about this. This is impulsive and can lead to something dangerous if not delt with skillfully. Good luck, <3
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