Post by Mea on Jan 15, 2016 7:19:13 GMT
Anonymous asked: Any advice on coping with being extremely attached to a therapist? I know it's very common with BPD and I feel like for me, I'll end up sabotaging my recovery just so she doesn't leave me. Just want to know I'm not alone.
Answer: Bring it up with her! Discuss relationships and how you feel about them. Discuss the relationships you have outside of the counselling room and how they are different to the one you have with her. Discuss how you might handle coming to a close with her as a therapist.
I think it’s a good sign that you feel so attached to her as she has thus done a good job with helping you trust her and feel comfortable in her presence. But it might be time for her and you to consider looking at other options in your life where you can seek alternatives to her support and company. I actually went through this with one of my clients recently and the discussion can be really healthy and progressive for you both.
Maybe ask yourself before your next therapy session what it is that makes you so attached to her? What would happen if she did leave you? If you sabotaged your recovery so she wouldn’t leave how do you see that ending up long term? What is it you want from her at the moment? Company or help with recovery?
I hope this helps a little.
~ Vay
Answer: Bring it up with her! Discuss relationships and how you feel about them. Discuss the relationships you have outside of the counselling room and how they are different to the one you have with her. Discuss how you might handle coming to a close with her as a therapist.
I think it’s a good sign that you feel so attached to her as she has thus done a good job with helping you trust her and feel comfortable in her presence. But it might be time for her and you to consider looking at other options in your life where you can seek alternatives to her support and company. I actually went through this with one of my clients recently and the discussion can be really healthy and progressive for you both.
Maybe ask yourself before your next therapy session what it is that makes you so attached to her? What would happen if she did leave you? If you sabotaged your recovery so she wouldn’t leave how do you see that ending up long term? What is it you want from her at the moment? Company or help with recovery?
I hope this helps a little.
~ Vay
