Post by Mea on Dec 23, 2015 7:32:30 GMT
mytwistedmindwithborderline-dea asked: Is it normal to get angry for no reason when you have BPD? Like today, nothing has really gone on that could upset me except the fact that I was alone all day with nothing to do. I'm fine one second and then the next I just feel this rush of anger flow through my body and every minute it just gets worse and worse. I feel insane sometimes because all I want to do is throw and hit things and scream. I have no idea what my problem is. I can't calm down.
Answer: Yeah, that’s a pretty normal experience. I consider myself a fairly angry person though I don’t externalize my anger very often, but I’ll just be sitting at my desk doing my work or making some jewellery and then all of a sudden this wave of intense anger will come over me with no warning and no trigger and I’ll just want to go downstairs and smash dishes for hours, like, it’s intense.
Borderline anger is often intense and irrational and spontaneous. Like, of all our emotions, anger is the one that seems to come up the most out of nowhere, where all of a sudden we just feel angry. It could be that there are subconscious things going on, something from a few days ago that’s been bothering you just below the surface and it’s finally turned itself into anger but you can’t recognize where that anger is coming from. Or it could just be random anger for no reason in particular. That’s the thing about being emotionally dysregulated and having those emotions be so volatile. Our moods change so rapidly, sometimes with only the slightest trigger or no trigger at all, that spontaneous anger is a common thing to experience if you’re someone with borderline who deals with that symptom.
Here are some healthier ways to release anger.
Here’s a playlist of a bunch of music that could calm you down.
Here’s a bunch of calming games that say they’re for anxiety but can work for anger as well.
Other things to try is holding an ice cube very tightly in your hand, or taking a cold shower or going for a walk outside when it’s brisk or cold out. Exercising can also help get anger out, especially cardio, so running, riding an exercise bike, the rowing machine, even swimming.
So maybe try a couple of those things in the links or in the post to help you calm down. I find once I’ve calmed my anger down to a manageable level, the best thing I can do is go pet my dog. Animals can be exceptionally calming influences and it’s really hard to be angry when you’re around cute and loving pets (if you have one).
-Pandora
Answer: Yeah, that’s a pretty normal experience. I consider myself a fairly angry person though I don’t externalize my anger very often, but I’ll just be sitting at my desk doing my work or making some jewellery and then all of a sudden this wave of intense anger will come over me with no warning and no trigger and I’ll just want to go downstairs and smash dishes for hours, like, it’s intense.
Borderline anger is often intense and irrational and spontaneous. Like, of all our emotions, anger is the one that seems to come up the most out of nowhere, where all of a sudden we just feel angry. It could be that there are subconscious things going on, something from a few days ago that’s been bothering you just below the surface and it’s finally turned itself into anger but you can’t recognize where that anger is coming from. Or it could just be random anger for no reason in particular. That’s the thing about being emotionally dysregulated and having those emotions be so volatile. Our moods change so rapidly, sometimes with only the slightest trigger or no trigger at all, that spontaneous anger is a common thing to experience if you’re someone with borderline who deals with that symptom.
Here are some healthier ways to release anger.
Here’s a playlist of a bunch of music that could calm you down.
Here’s a bunch of calming games that say they’re for anxiety but can work for anger as well.
Other things to try is holding an ice cube very tightly in your hand, or taking a cold shower or going for a walk outside when it’s brisk or cold out. Exercising can also help get anger out, especially cardio, so running, riding an exercise bike, the rowing machine, even swimming.
So maybe try a couple of those things in the links or in the post to help you calm down. I find once I’ve calmed my anger down to a manageable level, the best thing I can do is go pet my dog. Animals can be exceptionally calming influences and it’s really hard to be angry when you’re around cute and loving pets (if you have one).
-Pandora
