deathlovestheuniverse asked: Hi! I was wondering if I really needed to have extremely explosive anger or ever changing moods that I can't fully control to have BPD? I have more or less 6+ of the symptoms but I'm not as explosive with my moods. I usually just feel them instead
Answer: If you check our FAQ, we have a masterpost called “Do I Have BPD?” with more information about required symptoms, but the short answer is that there is no one required symptom in order to have BPD.
I also feel like feeling moods vs expressing moods should not be a distinction made when looking at borderline symptoms. As a woman and as a child abuse survivor, I have been socialized to never ever express my emotions, so many people would never describe me as someone with a lot of mood swings. However, I do feel myself switching constantly, even if I internalize all of it. So I check “yes” on mood swings, even though other people are like, “Really? I never see you shift moods though?” Yeah well. Symptoms =/= behaviors.
Ultimately, internalized symptoms are still symptoms and are still valid.