How to help my fp understand?

Katherine
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How to help my fp understand? Jan 12, 2016 2:10:05 GMT via Tapatalk

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Post by Katherine on Jan 12, 2016 2:10:05 GMT

I know there's a link of like resources for friends and family rn but I can't find it and is also maybe like more.. Idk posts or articles to send her? Or something to tell her?

My bpd and anger issues have been getting so bad lately and I've been splitting on her a LOT and she has psychosis so it's like she has her own problems too and they're usually more severe than mine so we don't talk about my problems a lot anyway. Well we have been now bc I've been getting so bad like. The littlest thing I'll just snap and I turn into a huge bitch and I can't control it and I'm just a passive aggressive angry bitch all the time. And it hurts her like I'm so mean to her but idk what to do!

We got into a huge huge fight yesterday, it even turned physical, we're both fine now but I need to stop this but we both know I can't do it without professional help. For reasons I can't get it right at this second, but I will be able too eventually

I guess until then I was wondering if anyone has any extra links for me? I want to link her to info about bpd and what her being my fp entails kinda thing. Sorry if this doesn't make any sense

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How to help my fp understand? Jan 12, 2016 8:18:29 GMT

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Post by nova on Jan 12, 2016 8:18:29 GMT

Have you searched through our FAQ on our tumblr?

I'll link you some of the posts that seem most related to what you're describing. This is only some chunks of these FAQ sections. Theres a bunch more resources actually on the page itself

The Borderline Social Life

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[*]I’m having difficulty expressing myself?
[*]Can my symptom severity be dependent on my environment and/or who I’m around?
[*]Is it normal to constantly want to impress your friends?
[*]What are “frantic efforts to avoid abandonment”?
[*]More information on “frantic efforts to avoid abandonment”?
[*]What is Emotional Permanence?
[*]Is it a borderline thing to sometimes say inappropriate things?
[*]I’m having difficulty with violence?
[*]Is it normal to be upset when people change?
[*]Is it normal to start fights/react quickly to anger?
[*]My friends don’t want me to talk to them about my symptoms anymore?
[*]How do I explain to my friends how I’m feeling?
[*]How can I ask for reassurance without overwhelming my friends?
[*]How do I communicate my feelings with others?
[*]How can I get a loved one to acknowledge me without being manipulative?
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The Borderline Intimate Life

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[*]How can I care for my mentally ill loved one when I have BPD?
[*]How can I let go of a past relationship?
[*]Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with BPD?
[*]Advice for relationships with people with BPD?
[*]Can a relationship be fixed after BPD has made it unhealthy?
[*]How do I cope with having a partner who is more detached?
[*]How can I explain to my partner how my identity disturbance works?
[*]What do I do if my partner’s therapist is biased against people with BPD?
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Coping Strategies

Katherine New Member Posts: 16	How to help my fp understand? Jan 12, 2016 13:34:37 GMT via Tapatalk Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Katherine on Jan 12, 2016 13:34:37 GMT Thank you. We can't stop fighting idk what to do its horrible

Kit Fancyphobic
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How to help my fp understand? Jan 12, 2016 17:54:53 GMT

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Post by Kit Fancyphobic on Jan 12, 2016 17:54:53 GMT

If it's possible maybe try and talk it out? Wait until you and her are both calmish and remove yourself from triggering situations? Also maybe have a moderator there who knows about both of your stuff? I baisically had to talk through my biggest split with my FP and he was uber understanding and we're overall on good terms again. After that split, we also went on shitborderlinesdo and talked about symptoms and how they manifest for me personally. Makes it a lot easier to talk to him about it if he knows what I mean when I say certain things

Make Up Your Mind//Catch Me I'm Falling

Post by Katherine on Jan 12, 2016 2:10:05 GMT

Post by nova on Jan 12, 2016 8:18:29 GMT

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Post by Kit Fancyphobic on Jan 12, 2016 17:54:53 GMT